Friendship - Ocassional Jadedness

Does one ever feel that sometimes, too much of being together in friendship is really bad ??? Well I, for one, do. It's great that we always think of our friends when we want to spend free time of ours or look forward to spend a great time, or maybe sad times as well. But too much of time spent with your friends in some circumstances can sometimes lead to excess. And it happens with both new friendships and really old friendships.

When I talk about new friendships, it's when you meet someone new, you start understanding them really well, and you do that task so well that the other person starts expecting a lot out of you. He/she thinks that you can turn out to be his/her best friend because you're understanding them on a level, maybe no one else could so easily. But you, on the other hand don't feel that connection happening, even though you really do understand the person. That builds up lot of expectations you know you won't be able to fulfill. And in turn, you feel bad and indirectly responsible for raising the bar. You've nothing against that person, yet you know that you don't wanna go that fast in the relationship building, but the other person is hurrying you up. That's one of the most difficult situations to tackle. A direct show of disinterest can lead to you looking like one of those fake persons who really was never interested and you're just one of those hard-hearted people who don't understand others' feelings. A tough situation to handle man!!!

With old friends, it's when you know they are going through a rough patch and so you're the one they'll turn up to look for comfort and peace. It's not that they'd talk about their problems but they would wanna spend time with you. They'd be really irritated, or frustrated and may take it all out on you, yet you take it calmly knowing the fact that it's not meant for you and it's good that he/she's letting it out. But if this continues for long (really long) time, then even you get tired of taking it all silently just for the sake of friendship. I mean you understand their viewpoint yet you're full to the brim of your capacity to take it anymore. You know you can't tolerate it anymore. Yet you don't want to tell your friend that this is the case, because you know he's looking up to you for support and peace. You then start to avoid his company or avoid talking to him, just because you're now irritated and you don't want him to become your victim, because you already know his situation. But at the same time, you're helpless because neither you can tell him so, nor can you take it out on him, even though he as a friend should understand your position. But on the contrary, if he really understood your position since day 1, then he would have made sure that he doesn't make you the object of his anger and irritation, but rather try to talk it out to you.

A Catch-22 situation??? I'd say so. And also, there's no simple solution to clear yourself right out of either of them...